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 Posted June 22nd, 2011 04:45 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
I wonder what life looks like at some of your homes in the evening.

I keep thinking we should be more intentional about having fun and playing with our children in the evenings. Evenings always feel busy with simply things like cleaning up after supper and getting ready for bed, and sometimes trying to finish up something else from during the day. And for DH that is sorta his time to do things he wants to get done at home or sometimes just relax. There are evenings like last evening where we were doing yard work and the girls played outside, and they seem to enjoy that even though we are not doing something with them.

As moms especially, it seems no matter how hard we try, we will never be caught up, so we have to just stop what we are doing if we want to enjoy fun things with our precious children.

so I wonder
HOw do you spend your evenings?
do you intentionally do family things in the evenings?
If so, what kind of things?


Wife to Colin. Mom to Alairia (6) and Tyra (3), and Maiya (10 mth. )

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 Posted June 23rd, 2011 07:37 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
It is a hard balance for us. We eat supper late so our evenings are so short especially during the school year. Right now we are just enjoying our long summer evenings so much.

Our evenings are spent working together in some way or another with the children either helping or playing. Sometimes I need to let some of the cleanup go so I can hang out with Jay and the children. But then it is there at bed time!

We do enjoy walks in the evening or sitting outside chatting, reading books out loud, or working at projects. But in the winter our intentional family fun usually has to wait for the weekend.
One intentional thing we do in the evening is read the children's Bible story, pray together and sing a few songs. That is a wonderful way to end the day!

Sylvia - mom to five - Ana-15, Adria-12, Jacob-9, Caleb-5, Isaac-3

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 Posted June 23rd, 2011 02:43 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
I feel where you're coming from Jodie. So, having a boy start school last year made our evenings incredibly short because we tried to have an early bedtime. Now it's summer and school vacation and the evenings are much longer....but I have a husband who, after his day job, always has 100 things he wants to do outside, whether it's field/tractor work, yard/garden, etc. So unless we're going somewhere together, we aren't all together in the evenings during the summer either. One thing that I find to be grateful for in that is that hubby almost always takes one or more children along with him in whatever he's doing. And they love that!
On evenings where we haven't been away and gotten home real late, we do always make a point to have family devotions together, which like Jaysgirl said, is a wonderful way to end the day.
I am frustrated with the fast pace of my summer so far tho, with so much going on and so much to do, and am making a goal for myself that one of these days I am going to make PLAY DAY where I do nothing at all outside the bare neccessities and just PLAY with my children. I do try to fit little things in here and there, occasional trips to the library or playground, or just sit down to play a card game or throw a ball.... if nothing else, I do make a point to have story time with them every day. Oh yeah, there's never enough time to do it all!!
Also, I imagine most of us normally sit down to eat supper together, if nothing else. That is not neccessarily the norm for alot of families, so know that is a very positive thing!

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 Posted June 24th, 2011 03:09 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
We only have one child and we already stuggle with this! I really think that the biggest thing is for me to just STOP after supper. Then if DH is messing around with one of the vehicles or doing something outside we can just go goof off and still be together and he certainly loves it. Otherwise I find myself working till 8:30 or later then frantically trying to get the house cleaned up before bedtime. At least 3 days a week DH doens't get home until 7:30 or later so those days I make sure to have Makayla and I showered and supper ready to put on so all I have to do is load the dishwasher and read stories. Well, that's ideally all I do.
I try to make sure and read plenty of stories throughout the day, and stop and play sometimes too. Once a week we go to the library for storytime and right now we have the pool up so we're normally out for about an hour a day. I know my life is about to change with a baby though so I'll have to shift things around. We pretty much decided that we have to do what we want to (having company, picnics, ect) or else it just really won't happen.

~Monica, wife to Eldon and mama to Makayla and Michael and Emily

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 Posted June 25th, 2011 10:14 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
our children enjoy bedtime stories soooo much! We don't make it a priority like we should. The rules are that pjs need to be on and teeth brushed before story time.
Another evening activity they enjoy is a campfire, or simply eating outside at the picnic table before dark. Again, we don't near make the time for it that we should.
I've found that if you plan ahead for activities like that, and work toward being early, it's not near the hassle as a 'last minute' thing of suddenly deciding to eat outside, and then it's nearly dark before we get it done.
An indoor evening activity ours enjoy is a simple snack supper, while sitting in the livingroom and watching a dvd. I've already turned it into a pj party for them, esp. if daddy wasn't home and we were feeling sad about it. Again planning ahead is the key to helping it go smoothly, but they enjoy it sooo much and soon will be begging to do it again!
Sometimes, the activity is work, like snapping green beans w/ daddy .

Mama to Zachary, Leandra, Kandace
and 3 more.


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 Posted June 26th, 2011 11:45 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
With 3, almost 4, young children we feel it's very important to spend family time w/ them on a regular basis. We don't go away evenings unless it's very necessary and that's our time to spend together. Often, it's just going outside and playing w/ the kids. Occasionally, we'll do a little outside work and let them help. If it's not nice outside we play in the living room together for a while. During school, it's harder to get the time in w/ them because we like to have the boys in bed by 8:30, but they pretty much always get there "tearing around" time in w/ daddy somehow. I usually just throw the dishes in the dishwasher and clean up the kitchen a little. The rest will wait for later.
Diane, mommy to Kaden(4), Kolton(3), and Makenna(2), and baby #4 due in late August.


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 Posted June 27th, 2011 07:46 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
Someone I know has asked his wife to not have work to do after supper. So often it feels like I can leave things to do for after the dishes are cleaned up, but if I wouldn't have an agenda then I would feel more free with reading or playing with the children.
Wife of Gerald
Mom of Brendan (14) Kara (12) Tyler (9) Andre and Alex (7)


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 Posted August 5th, 2011 05:40 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
I'm like Monica, we only have one and already struggle with this. One thing we do that helps at least a little is keep Tues. evenings as Family Night. We are pretty jealous of this evening and almost never cave in and plan something for that evening. What we do that evening varies a lot, but we try to do some fun things with Logan and also just relax some ourselves. We've been very grateful that we started this because otherwise some weeks we'd have something going every evening and that gets old really fast!

Lydia, wife to Vince and Mom to Logan (7/26/08), Eleni Jo- our sweet baby in Heaven (11/11/10), Sophia (12/14/11) and Adelyne (2/6/14)

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