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Ernies Girls
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 Posted November 11th, 2007 06:51 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
Anyone have advice for us to help our children overcome bed wetting?
Our worst bedw. is about impossible to wake enough to take to the bathroom during the night. Or is this something they just have to outgrow?
We spend way too much money on Huggies Overnites!!!!!!

Karen B
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 Posted November 11th, 2007 08:46 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My SIL has a lot of trouble with this, but I didn't have any great advice to give her. It will be interesting to see what works for others.
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 Posted November 11th, 2007 11:43 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
I don't have any answers. I know that what works for one child, does not necessarily work for a different child. We have/had a bedwetter. She is almost to the point of being completely free of it, and then every now and then she will have an episode again. I used to get so upset within myself. I thought it was absolutely unnecessary that a 4-yr-old would wet the bed every night. I know she knew I was upset, and she was not confident in herself. I finally came to the realization that I have to change my attitude and then try to work with her on the problem. It really helped. Instead of focusing on how often she did wet bed or pullup, we focused on the times when she woke up dry in the morning. And we really praised her for that. It did wonders for her confidence level. Another thing was, we ran out of Pull-ups through the week, and I just told her matter-of-factly that we aren't going to walmart just for pullups, and she'll just need to keep from wetting herself. She did just that. I know that sound sleeping has a lot to do with it as well, they just sleep so soundly that they don't even feel they need to go. Not drinking for a half hour before bedtime, and then def. going potty before bed, helps too.
Anyway, I'm sure you've heard all of this before. But I do believe that believing in your child and using a positive approach does make a big difference and does much more for them than we realize. Hope it goes better for you and the youngster.

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 Posted November 12th, 2007 08:30 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My poor mom had 4 out of 6 that were bw and guess what? Not one of them are today. (Unless someones not letting it all out.) I'm just wondering if it is genetic? There are some families out there that don't deal with it past potty training and others that battle for years afterwards. I don't know. I do know that it can become very frustrating for the parents and for the child. It is humiliating to wake up 'dry-be-gone'.
  
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 Posted November 12th, 2007 09:47 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
I have never dealt with this situation, my daughter is not yet 2 and is not potty trained!! But, my SIL has said that she took her son to the chiropractor and it helped. It also helped the son of one of her friends. I don't know what it is about the chiro treatments that helped, but it did. I know every situation is different so it may not help your child, but I would definitely give it a try.
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 Posted November 12th, 2007 10:17 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My husband remembers being a bedwetter and having to wear big rubber pants to go to bed. His parents tried different methods and finally someone told them (maybe a dr.) some excercises to do. This involved starting to pee, then try to hold it back , and also something to do w/ massaging the p---- a certain way. (excuse my bluntness here! He was still a small boy at the time!) His mother is the type to try anything so she helped him with it. I'm not sure if it was that or simply out-growing it that helped him. He is still a sound sleeper to this day. But I guess that wouldn't work with a girl unless you could somehow teach her Kegal exercises.
Our son has some of the same problems but beings he didn't get potty trained until 3 yrs. old, I'm not too worried about it and keep buying pull-ups. The last while he does have more dry nights then wet, but the other morning he woke up SOAKED and was afriad of a spanking until I told that it's perfectly fine, we'll wash everything, including him! LOL
The parents attitude does have a lot to do with it. We had been spanking Z this past summer for wetting during the day. One morning I heard him get up and shut his bedroom door. When I checked on him, he was laying at the foot of his bed crying and scared to come out for fear his daddy would spank him, as the bed was wet. I then realized how hard we were on him about it. So we told him it's OK to wet at night time while he is sleeping but NOT during the day! His matterest is covered w/ a plastic cover, then a matterest cover on top so you hardly know there is plastic on it. Limiting water in the evenings helps. The lastest mishap he wasn't with me all the evening so prob. drank more. It is frustrating to have to do laundry every time it happens but it's much easier to wash a wet bed then a puked one!!

Jan
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Ernies Girls
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 Posted November 12th, 2007 12:32 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
We don't spank or make an issue out of it but I feel sooooo bad when they decide last minute to spend the night at Grandma's and here the pullups are all . I try to keep plenty there but........
Karen B
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 Posted November 14th, 2007 11:57 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
As the mother of two bedwetters (although the younger one is dry more often than not, now) and a sibling of bedwetters, I can say fairly confidently that they will grow out of it. I used to wake my one son during the night fairly often, but came to realize that it wasn't doing much good because he was depending on ME to wake him up. Most of the time he wasn't really waking up anyway, and I concluded that I was only training MYSELF (to get him up) and not HIM (he wasn't remembering anything about getting up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom!) I did start to buy pull ups several years ago. We had to force him to wear them at first because he was so embarrassed, but when he finally realized how much better it was to wake up in a dry bed and clothes, he accepted it. He is old enough now that he struggles with real embarressment, especially when he goes away for the night, but I always try to be matter of fact about it and don't make it a big issue for him. We do not punish either as I know all too well how damaging that can be. Most bedwetters do not CHOOSE to wet the bed, and certainly do not WANT to do it. We had asked a doctor's advice several years ago and he gave a prescription that was supposed to help. Our son took them for awhile, and I think they did help, but they didn't make him feel very well and he wanted to stop taking them, so we didn't force him to keep on with them.
I would say just be patient and allow them to outgrow it, and keep them comfortable and as "un-embarrassed" as you can.

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 Posted November 15th, 2007 02:45 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
Quite a few of my siblings were bedwetters and I think all of them have out grown it by now. But the one was in his lower teens and still occasionally wet the bed. My mom would buy pull-ups for them. When they got to be the age of being embarrassed especially if they went away for the night or had overnight company. She would say "just go into the bathroom and put it on, NO ONE has to even know you are wearing it." She didn't make a big deal. I feel so sorry for bedwetters and their moms. The bedwetters themselves usually hate it as much as the mom and wish so badly they wouldn't do it. My advice would be just be a calm and as matter afact as you can be. Helping them in whatever way diminshes the effects of it, such as other people finding out. Shaming them doesn't do any good, but would have negative affects. Does it tend to run in families? I haven't faced it yet as a mom, but I guess I will be suprised if I don't because of the number of my siblings that did. And some of my mom's siblings also had problems with it.
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 Posted November 16th, 2007 01:20 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My parents used a "wee-alert." I don't even know where you could get something like that now. I know my sister got one farely recently. It really worked quite well. You put it on their bed and as soon as it got just a little wet, it would start beeping. Mom would wake up quickly and take the bed wetter to the potty. Then she would have to change the sheets (not fun in the middle of the night.) and put the child back to bed. It only took a couple of nights and the problem was over. I guess it for sure woke up the bedwetter as soon as they started.

Mom didn't have to use it on all of us, and I don't think she used it until they were around 5 or so. It might seem a little harsh, but I think I would give it a try if I have an older bed-wetter sometime. A few nights of changing the sheets in the middle of the night, and an alarm ringing, would be worth it if it would save the child from embarrassment later on.

Joanna
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 Posted November 16th, 2007 03:21 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My parents used the "beeper" thing for my sister who was 10. It solved the problem in a week or so. She she hasn't had any problems since.
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 Posted September 22nd, 2008 12:59 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
Sorry to bring up an old subject. I have a 5 yr old that still will consistently wet her bed every night if I don't take her. To say the least, I am sick and tired of getting out of bed an hour or two after I got there to take her potty. Buying pullups? Well, tired of that and changing sheets too!! Maybe I should try the beeper thing. But how does that work if her sisters sleep in the same room? Wake everyone up....... I never had a problem with bwing, but my husband had when he was small. In fact he wasn't the only one in the family that had the problem. What to do?????????? I guess I could also try putting an alarm clock by her bed and set it for the time that I normally take her, but I am hesitant to do that because of her sisters in the room. Hopefully something will click one of these days for her.
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 Posted September 22nd, 2008 02:11 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
A chiropractic treatment to adjust her lower back and spine may be what she needs. It has helped our daughter a lot.
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 Posted September 22nd, 2008 03:02 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
I will definitely agree with Jasmine. I started taking our sons to the chiropractor and it has helped VERY much. What the chiropractor said made total sense. He works on keeping the spine "open". On our one son, he said the end of his spine was so "knotted up" that his nerves weren't able to get through to his brain to wake him up when he needs to go to the bathroom. He's doing so much better and is asking to be able to stop wearing pull ups. I told him the other day if he stays dry for one week, he can stop. So he's counting down the days.
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 Posted September 22nd, 2008 10:03 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
Wow, you make it sound so easy. Maybe we should give that one a try. I just know it will be a HUGE struggle just to get her there and let our fav. chiropractor (a man) touch her. Guess I will have to try to persuade her and maybe bribe......?????? yikessss
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 Posted May 28th, 2010 11:43 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
We just accomplished training the third child in a row now with the Malem bed wetting alarm!! I am so pleased. It took about 2 weeks and now he is dry!!
I would like to sell the alarm if anyone wants to buy it.

Here is how it works.
The buzzing and vibrating usually does not wake the child up at first. So you have to put a baby moniter in their room and yours to wake you up. The child sleeps on towels or something to absorb the moisture. Each time it goes you go and get the child up and say over and over, "it's time to go potty". Also do not turn the alarm off until their feet hit the floor. Always walk them to the bathroom and have them try. At first there is nothing left, but you can begin to celebrate when they have something left to pee!!

Just keep doing this until the child gets up themselves and goes by themselves. We have been doing it for about 6 weeks and just to reassure us that we are done we have been giving him tea this week to see if he wets or gets up to go. He gets up. He is usually disoriented and comes stumbling into our room crying and we take him, but at least he is dry and if he does like the others he will be able to go on his own after a while.

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 Posted May 28th, 2010 04:14 PM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My sister had bed wetters and used an alarm with some success. But with her last one she read something about magnesium and bed wetting. After she started her 7-8 year old on a magnesium supplement the bed wetting stopped abruptly. I was dealing with Jacob (3- now 4) sometimes being wet- sometimes dry for periods of time and so when she shared her success I went to my bottle of Super Kids vitamins that I was giving him sometimes and was thrilled to discover that it is a good source of magnesium. Ever since I have been faithfully giving him his Super Kids and he stays dry unless we forget for a while.
So for you moms that are searching for answers, I was doing some research and magnesium is sometimes a successful answer to bedwetting. Actually it is good for a lot of things. I wish you the same success!

Sylvia - mom to five - Ana-13, Adria-10, Jacob-7, Caleb-3, Isaac-1
   
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 Posted June 1st, 2010 11:00 AM   IP           Reply with quote Edit Post Delete post
My younger siblings had allot of problems with this and Mom read somewhere that raising the head of the bed helps...it increases the preasure on the bladder. It seemed to help allot, cause I don't remember them ever wetting after they did that.
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